Experience Calm

Do you feel stressed constantly? Have you tried so many things, but nothing has truly worked?

Whether your stress comes from a work or school situation or a family member or relationship issue, feeling calmer is possible using EFT Tapping.

Experience Calm

Do you feel stressed constantly? Have you tried so many things, but nothing has truly worked?

Whether your stress comes from a work or school situation or a family member or relationship issue, feeling calmer is possible using EFT Tapping.

Hi, I’m Lois.  Welcome – I am so glad you are here. 

Do you know what it feels like to be calm even when difficult things happen? I didn’t. I only knew stress. That is until I discovered EFT Tapping and trained to become certified.

I think of my life in terms of BEFORE Tapping and SINCE Tapping.

BEFORE learning Tapping, things happened to me and I would feel upset intensely. I felt like there was nothing I could do.

SINCE tapping, things happen and I have a tool to process exactly how I feel and come away feeling better.

This technique has profoundly changed my life and I want everyone to experience the difference it can make. It has given me a way to process my feelings and emotions in difficult situations.

I am here to help and inspired and excited to share with YOU this approach that has truly transformed my life.

Emotional Freedom Techniques (Tapping)

What Is EFT Tapping?

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or Tapping is a self-help method. It’s referred to as “tapping” because involves tapping with your fingertips on acupuncture points on the face, hands, and upper body while focusing on and saying what is bothering you out loud.

Tapping utilizes the same meridian endpoints found in traditional Chinese Medicine while using our ability to think about our issue and notice what part of the problem is really bothering us.

EFT Tapping was developed by Gary Craig and is based on the work of American psychologist Dr Roger Callahan. Dr Callahan was working with a client on her fear of water and she reported feeling the fear in her stomach. When he had her tap on the meridian point associated with the stomach her fear suddenly disappeared.

How To Tap

How To Tap

When people first come to EFT tapping, they often question whether they are doing it right.   Discover how to structure your tapping here  as I introduce you to tapping and start your journey to feeling calmer using this amazing tool.

Work With Me

Individual Coaching

When you are feeling stuck and want to effect change in your life, working with me one on one using EFT Tapping means we can look at exactly what is bothering YOU.


In a group tapping session, I guide the group in EFT Tapping with very open language so each person can focus on their own issue.


Check my blog posts that allow you to discover the amazing world of Emotional Freedom Techniques.

About Lois


I’ve been anxious since before people even knew what that was and changing that has been a process of trial and error. Now I have this life-changing tool, EFT Tapping, that has made all the difference


I’m a Certified EFT Practitioner based on the US East Coast in Connecticut. But with today’s technology, I work with people from all over via video-conferencing


Life-long runner - my ambition to run faster and better has improved my tapping skills and vice-versa


Lover of the outdoors, excited to explore new places, married to my biggest supporter for 29 years and counting, three children, and after so many years, still seventy-three percent farm girl (from Iowa) – I muscle tested!!!

Lois Kugler in front of window

Latest Blogs

The Movie Technique

The Movie Technique

The Movie Technique is a powerful EFT technique because it provides a systematic way to notice and tap on specific aspects of an upsetting memory. EFT is most effective at reducing the emotional intensity when used on specific events. The Movie Technique guides you through tapping on each piece of a memory and thus being very specific.

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Finding Your Inner Answers

Finding Your Inner Answers

Have you ever thought about how many decisions you make each day? So many things to think about and figure out. When my kids were younger, each decision was given so much energy. I collected...

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Using Your Own Words

Using Your Own Words

  People often ask how to know what the right words are to use when they are tapping on their own. While you can find scripts of words to use for different topics, the time you spend tapping...

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Q: Should I really focus on the negative during tapping?

A:   People are sometimes afraid that by focusing on the negative, they will make it stronger. But in tapping we are simply telling the truth. There has been such an emphasis in recent years on focusing on the positive that we have lost sight of the importance of processing how we actually feel.

In tapping you are verbalizing what you are noticing, as a short reminder phrase, as you go through the tapping points. This is being specific about the issue and is essential to the success of EFT Tapping.

Using words that help you stay focused on the problem as you tap through the points can feel uncomfortable, but it is truly the path to feeling relief.

When you let yourself focus on exactly how you feel and put words to that, you are expressing your uncomfortable feelings safely. Together your attention, tapping and verbalizing, allow uncomfortable emotions to shift.

Q: What if I don’t feel comfortable saying “I accept how I feel”?

A:   When I first came to tapping, I didn’t accept how I felt. I was completely focused on not wanting to feel how I felt.

When you accept yourself in your situation, you are showing compassion for yourself. It’s only when you are present with yourself that deeper insights and awareness of the issue can come to you. This self-acceptance allows the energy to move and the intensity of the emotional charge to dissipate.

If you feel resistance to accepting yourself, this is also something to tap on.

Q: How does tapping work?
A:   Tapping works with the network of energy pathways of the body, called meridians in Traditional Chinese Medicine. The endpoints of the pathways are the points used in acupressure and in EFT tapping.

It may be that tapping works because the stimulation of the acupressure points sends a signal to the fear center of the brain, the amygdala, that calms the fear response and elicits relaxation.

When we are stressed, the thinking, reasoning part of the brain, the pre-frontal cortex goes offline. Tapping calms and relaxes the body, allowing us to think clearly again.

Q: Is there evidence to show that tapping is effective?

A:   The number of scientific studies on the effectiveness of EFT tapping has grown significantly in recent years. A search of pubmed.gov (a database maintained by The United States National Library of Medicine at the NIH) for “Emotional Freedom Techniques” showed the wide range of issues that have been studied, including:

nurses’ stress, anxiety, and burnout levels during the Covid-19 pandemic

public speaking anxiety


Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

food cravings and weight management

anger symptoms


chronic pain


For more information on scientific research on Emotional Freedom Techniques and a list of studies by topic of the research, visit


Q: How much time should I spend tapping on an issue?

A:   Magic can happen when we take as much time as we need to be with exactly how we feel about something. Having an expectation about how long I want to spend tapping gets in the way of being able to be with and notice how I truly feel.

If I am tapping on something that I already have deep insight into what it’s about, I may spend thirty minutes tapping.

And if I start with one thing and tap a few rounds and then get clarity on another piece of the issue the entire process is going to take longer. In such a case, I spend however long it takes on the first piece, notice another thing and then tap as long as needed on that.

If it feels like tapping takes too much time, tap on that first. Tapping does take time, but so does anything else that is important to you. I have found that with time, I have gotten much better at tapping and things resolve much quicker that they did when I first started tapping.

Q: Tapping doesn’t seem to work for me, my issue doesn’t reduce to zero.

A:   When I first came to tapping, I had this experience too and I concluded that tapping didn’t work for me. With the help of a practitioner, I was able to get to zero and feel neutral on an issue and see that tapping could actually work for me too.

Eventually realized that early on I wasn’t doing the tapping correctly. I didn’t know how to listen to any of the insights that came to me about an issue. I was just repeating vague descriptions of what was wrong over and over without getting to any deep feelings.

Tapping is a skill like any other. No one is an amazing piano player on their first try. Tapping takes lots of practice and especially in the beginning it is important to get assistance so that you are using effective technique.